|Some Common Myths About Bullying|
Some Common Myths About Bullying - what are some common misconceptions about bullying? Bullying is an anti-social behavior that is found in societies the world over. The bully and their victims can be children or adults. In some cases, the bully may be a child and their target an adult.
Bullying Myth 1
Some people think that childhood bullying is simply a stage of growing up and should be accepted or tolerated as a normal part of one’s journey in life. On the contrary, bullying is an aggressive expression of loathing or contempt for others that is socially unacceptable and should not be considered “the norm”. To just sit back and accept bullying without doing something about it is the same as acquiescing to, or even encouraging, such behaviour. This clearly sends the wrong signal to the perpetrators, victims, bystanders and the community at large.
Bullying Myth 2
There are those who subscribe to the view that the bullying victim should "match fire with fire" and retaliate when set upon. There may be times when defending one’s self can be forced upon us. However, experience suggests that mindlessly hitting back at the bully can make the situation worse. By doing so the victim may put themselves in harm’s way and risk serious injury.
Bullying Myth 3
Another myth that seems to do the rounds is that, in the case of children, bullying is a problem that the school system and teachers alone should fix. The fact is that bullying can be a more embedded social issue that is not just found in schools but one that pervades broader society. Bullying can occur in various settings such as on the streets, at the community pool, in organised sport, at the mall, in the home, the workplace – in fact anywhere that strong feelings of loathing or hostility are directed toward someone considered to be worthless, inferior or undeserving of respect.
Bullying Myth 4
Aren't all bullies just born that way? Bullying behaviour is often times a learned behaviour. This means that people are not usually born to be bullies. Education, taking responsibility for one’s actions and retraining is possible.
Bullying Myth 5
Many children targeted by bullies don't think speaking out about it will do any good. Victims of bullying are often afraid of speaking out about the problem for fear of reprisals and the mistaken belief that adult intervention won’t do anything. However, research indicates that bullying will subside or stop when adults in authority and peers are proactively involved in helping to resolve issues.