What Causes Bullying In Generally

What Causes Bullying? Bullying can be caused for a variety of reasons.   Bullies often target their attention to passive victims who react by showing signs of being intimidated such as pleading, crying or running away or who seem to lack self-confidence.  Sometimes bullies pick on people for no apparent reason.

In the case of children, some are more likely than others to be victimized because they might appear “different” from their peers.Being the focus of a bully’s attention may stem from a person’s race, their religion, their appearance, their sexual orientation, because they have a disability or because of their home circumstances.   Some people are bullied for being black, white, Asian, fat, skinny, tall, short, clever, freckle faced, slow learners, or red-haired.

The pay-off for the bully is usually the ability to perceive that they are holding some form of power or supremacy over others or being seen as popular, cool or tough or to get attention.   They attempt to achieve this through domination and control of those viewed as being weaker, different or more vulnerable than they are.   Bullying can also have its roots in the human frailties of jealousy, distrust, fear, misunderstanding or ignorance.

In some cases, the bully themselves may have been a target of other bullies and has chosen to act out against others in the same way that they have been acted against.Bullies learn to justify their actions by convincing themselves that their targets deserve to be bullied.  They also believe that the way to get what they want from others is through intimidation, coercion and force.  Studies have indicated that bullies are largely unsuccessful in developing the important social skills of sharing, reciprocating, empathizing, and negotiating that form the basis for sound enduring relationships.

What Forms of Bullying Are There?

Bullying can occur in different forms.   The more basic forms of abuse are:

♦ Physical bullying - poking, pushing, hitting, tripping, pinching, kicking, throwing objects, spitting upon, beating up etc.

♦ Verbal bullying - yelling, teasing, being called names, insulting, put downs

♦ Emotional bullying - ignoring, excluding, spreading rumors, telling lies

Other forms of bullying (which include elements of the basic types) may include:

♦ Physiological bullying – making threats, using rude, obscene & vulgar gestures, stalking etc

♦ Cyber bullying - impersonating someone else on blogs or social networking sites such as Facebook, Myspace, Bebo, Twitter etc, insulting someone in chat rooms, sending hateful or threatening emails and text messages, using the Internet, chat rooms or mobile phones to send rumours or degrading images.

♦ Sexual bullying – verbal or physical actions such as unwanted touching, fondling or brushing against someone, picking on someone who is gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans gender or because of doubts as to their sexual orientation etc. 

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