Bullies in School, Neighborhood and Workplace -Bullying can inflict physical and emotional harm to the victims or targets who did nothing to deserve the demeaning behavior. Bullying by direct or indirect methods can bring social embarrassment, humiliation and social isolation.
Being a Target of a Bully
Being a victim or target of a playground, workplace or neighborhood bully can have harmful consequences which can impact people seriously for the the rest of their lives. Knowing that they may be attacked or singled out for harassment, many victims become isolated and preoccupied with the task of avoiding situations where they will be open to the bully.
There are two types of targets that bullies look for:
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Passive victims tend to be either physically weaker, equipped with fewer social skills and have less of a support group. This group tends to be more anxious and turned inward, both mentally and with body language. Bullies tend to justify picking on the passive victim because they feel they will not be caught and that “They deserved it because they were trying to hide.” An example of this in the workplace could be a manager stealing the work of a co-worker and putting his/her name on it. Thus taking credit knowing that they will get away with it because of the unequal division of power.
These are the people who are in the spotlight and the bully wants to “Take them down a peg or two.” Provocative targets may be those who have poor social skills and impulse control and so tend to irritate or annoy others with their behaviors. Bullies tend to find pleasure in provoking situations which will cast the target in a bad light. An example of this is a neighbor who starts rumors about a home owner who has the biggest display of lawn ornaments.
Bullying is About Power
In a conflict, both sides have equal power to resolve the problem. Bullying is an intentional, one-sided use of power and mean spirit to control another. If you or a friend feels that you are the target or victim of either a person or group, then please do not feel ashamed or that you did anything to bring on that kind of trauma. Bullies are bullies, whether they are on school grounds, work places or in our neighborhoods. They are looking for victims. If you were not there, they would find someone else.